One of the biggest causes for divorce these days is finance.
With something that is so important and such a part of our lives, it can often
be difficult to see eye to eye when agreeing on financial decisions. All of us
were raised differently; therefore we all have different perspectives and ideas
on the way that things should be done. When I was growing up, my parents taught
me the importance of saving money. Whenever I would make money I would have to
put 10% of it towards tithing, half of it towards savings, and then I could
spend the rest. At the time I thought it was the worst to have to put so much
towards savings, but now I am so grateful for the habits that my parents helped
me to develop.
It is
interesting to me how finances change once married. I think this is common
among all married couples. It seems that when one is single nothing really
matters. Yes you may be saving for school or a car or something, but besides
that… you have fun! Typically, when single, money is spent on entertainment and
activities. Then once in a relationship, money is spent on dates and on each
other. To me it seemed like my boyfriend (now husband) had a never-ending bank
account because of all the fun dates he took me on. He would buy me flowers,
take me to my favorite restaurants, and then eventually bought me a BEAUTIFUL
ring! ;) Now married, money has a much bigger place in our relationship. It is
something that we have to discuss frequently. We even have to base our plans
around it at times. It’s a big adjustment in life, considering all that we were
used to before marriage.
When my
husband and I got married it wasn’t instantly easy to figure out our finances.
Like I said earlier, we are all raised differently and have different
viewpoints. After lots of talking and planning, we have found what works for
us. I am actually really blessed to have found someone who is very much on the
same page as me. We have the same goals and values and know what it’ll take to
get there. From what I’ve learned, it takes sacrifice, patience, and
understanding in order to be successful.
Just saw this quote and loved it! What we do with our lives, the position that we're in, the level of happiness that we are experiencing is OUR CHOICE! Let us choose to live the life that we have always dreamed of!